Monday, March 14, 2011

I love you Grandma but that was NOT OKAY.

I just got the notification card from the donation she made in my name as a birthday present and it reawakened my anger and hurt over what she did. It reads:

During this joyful time of celebration, a gift was given - in your honor.

To share in Christ’s abundant blessings, a special gift was given to Compassion International to help the world’s impoverished children.

We pray that this gift brings joy to you, as well as the compassion-assisted children and their families who receive its benefits.

In celebration of Christ’s many gifts.

Now, you may be thinking, what’s so offensive about that? Why am I so angry? Poor children are benefiting!

  • To start, for the most shallow reason, I am an Atheist and she donated to a Christian organization in my name without a second thought. This is highly inconsiderate of my personal beliefs when I am never anything but considerate of hers, to the point of attending ceremonies with her on holidays when she feels it’s important to be with family.
  • Next, I do not believe in religion-based charity organizations. I feel that religion has no place in true charity work and that proselytizing to children and adults who cannot afford to say no or who are not educated about or presented with any other choices is incredibly immoral. This is made worse by the fact that my quick check of Compassion International’s website showed me this: “Compassion International exists as a Christian child advocacy ministry that releases children from spiritual, economic, social and physical poverty and enables them to become responsible, fulfilled Christian adults.

    Founded by the Rev. Everett Swanson in 1952, Compassion began providing Korean War orphans with food, shelter, education and health care, as well as Christian training.”

    This is not in any way okay. “Spiritual poverty” being implied to mean any non-Christian spirituality is a horrible, horrible idea that erases the validity of the beliefs of the cultures these children are raised in and smacks of an uncomfortable level of brainwashing and the desire to stamp out any non-Christian beliefs in children with no one else to turn to.
  • Their website and the card I received are plastered with poverty porn of starving children of color and their white savior sponsor families. With no exception, the children portrayed to be in need of saving are non-white and the sponsorship families are white Christians.
  • The fact that the card “pray[s] that this gift bring joy to you” really rubs me the wrong way. Charity is not about giving privileged white bible-thumpers the warm fuzzies because omgz, they’re so kind that they sent money to the little brown children and they can tell their friends how good they are! Charity is not a present that you give in the name of another privileged person to give them the warm fuzzies and make them feel like a better person. Charity should be about a genuine desire to do good for others even if it never affects you in any way and you get no social benefit from it.
  • Last, I am especially angry because, if she had asked, I could have given her 5 charities off of the top of my head that I would have been extremely grateful to see receive money. If she had given me a few minutes I could have given her a hugely long list. If she really desired to send money to this specific kind of cause, I would have willingly researched organizations that do similar work until I found one that I was comfortable donating to.
This is not a problem of me not caring about charities, this is a problem of disrespect and holding people and organizations to a higher ethical standard before I’m willing to throw money at them. I am incredibly grossed out and upset.